Hey Alexa, play “A Song for Mama” by Boyz II Men
Yesterday was Mother’s Day and for the first time ever, the holiday wasn’t as festive as I remember it. As I stood in church trying to shake off my bad mood, I cried…and then I cried some more. I didn’t think at my age I would still be single and without a child. For the first time ever, I had Mother’s Day FOMO. There was something different. I wanted to be celebrated today and felt sadness for what wasn’t, but still had hope for what could be.
It wasn’t long after service that I started thinking deeply about what this day meant for others..
For those who have lost children. I wish you a Happy Mother’s Day. Grief comes in waves and my deepest sympathies to you and your family. May you have peace on today and every day after.
For those who have lost their mother. I won’t say anything cliche. I’m sure you’ve heard it all before. I will however take time to acknowledge that today is different for you compared to others. I see you!
For those who are longing to be mothers. I am right there with you. Know that if you are waiting for marriage, married trying to conceive, etc. You are not alone. There are many who also have this desire.
For those mothers who aren’t on good terms with their children. It’s not the ideal situation. No matter the outcome, nothing, and I mean NOTHING will change the fact that you are their mother. Whether you adopted, fostered, or gave birth…motherhood is complex. Some may never understand.
For those of you who have decided motherhood isn’t for you. I don’t judge you. I respect your decision. It’s your body and it’s your choice. If you’re up for it, if I may, I would like to suggest the cool aunty. Spoil your nieces, nephews, friends of your kids or friends of your coworkers. If not, guess what, that’s ok too.
For those who have a strained relationship with their mother. My dear, blood isn’t always thicker than water. There are some relationships that are so toxic and detrimental that you have to severe ties to protect yourself. I’m proud of you for doing the needful for you.
I must say that even for me, this is a bit of an unconventional Mother’s Day post. It just felt right and important for me to acknowledge and speak to all those who aren’t or won’t be spoken to in regard to this holiday. So let me be the 1st and hopefully not the last to wish you a Happy Mother’s Day!
Let Your Mother’s Day Light Shine!