You know a thing has become a THANG when there’s a definition for it in the dictionary. Before you even ask, let me tell you what a situationship is. According to the Oxford dictionary, a situationship is a romantic or sexual relationship that is not considered to be formal or established.
Now you may be wondering, what’s bad with a situationship? Mine is working for me. Just because you failed, doesn’t mean I will. Well, Sunshine you may be right. Everyone does have their own personal definition of success in relationships. For my own selfish reasons, I would just like to see more women claimed and loved out loud. Also, I just feel it’s a low ROI. Unless that’s the point. Honestly, I don’t know many women who would invest a lot of time, energy, money, etc. to walk away empty handed on purpose. However, I could be wrong, there are some who benefit from the journey and process instead of the destination and product. If that is you, go for it, continue with the situationship, sail on. If that’s not you and you’ve been having negative feelings surrounding your time with a certain someone, then maybe it’s time to turn into Elsa from Frozen and “Let it Go!”
If you choose to sink it, and I hope you do, but no pressure…here are some tips to make it through:
Tip 1: Don’t be afraid to be sad, cry, or mourn the loss of that person
Tip 2: Surround yourself with people and thing(s) that you love and bring you comfort and/or joy
Tip 3: Give time, time to do it’s thing. Don’t rush the process, feel all the feelings
Tip 4: The person who you are no longer involved with is NOT going to help. Leave them alone. TRUST ME
Sunshine, let me NOT lie to you. I recently did this. There was pain, anger, tears. I was thoroughly confused. Do not underestimate the emotional and mental toil it will take on you. To be frank, I was quite confused. I cried a few times. My dear, real tears flowed. I was angry and questioned myself often. How and I mean How Sway?! How did I allow myself to get emotionally involved and attached to someone and/or something that was NOT formally established. I knew exactly what it was. I knew exactly who he was. This was supposed to be a play situation, a temporary fill in, low stakes, and no strings. I’m not sure when it switched for me or him, but it did and we both paid the consequences for it. I could go into the details. I won’t, but essentially, as it stands now, I’ve blocked him via phone, he’s blocked me via social media, and we are currently NOT on speaking terms. It’s so crazy to me because it wasn’t all bad. That’s the hard part about all of this. The good keeps you, convinces you to stay, and slowly deceives you. It just wasn’t enough for me. Maybe it’s enough for you, maybe it isn’t.
Whatever you decide, regardless of my preference, do what is best for you. Only you know what that is.
Let Your Situationship Light Shine!